Every once in awhile I write up a pretty detailed schedule for our days, down to the half hour. Kit prints it off and I hang it on the fridge. And it sits there. Sometimes I look at it and think, “Hmm, it should be quiet time,” or some such thing but mostly we COMPLETELY IGNORE IT.
But it’s there, and it gives me some sense of order or structure for our days. HAHAH. There is no order in our days.
It’s like our budget. We write up a very detailed budget and I know in my head what our bills are, what our cushion is, what savings has, etc. Then we pay our bills and buy as needed and never bother to balance our checkbook (I don’t think I’ve balanced my checkbook and had the statement match up with what I’ve got EVER, so I gave up.) But we don’t bounce anything, we don’t use credit, and we always manage to pay our bills on time and put money in savings, etc. So the budget planning is what we need, even if we don’t ever look at it again. We do try to look every few months to assess things and see if we can cut anything else but mostly we just ignore it until it’s time to assess our financial goals again. That’s how I approach our days…
Back to schedules. Planning it out helps me feel some rhythm to our days, but I don’t follow it most of the time. Here’s our revised postpartum schedule, and there are no half hour increments here:
AM – breakfast & clean up, exercise, Kit to work, playtime, snack at 9:30am (since bfast is by 7am, and we try to shove them in the yard to play in the mornings.)
11AM – lunch & clean up then naps/quiet time. (During quiet time I read with the older kids, play, pick up, do projects, etc. If I’m ambitious I do lessons. Try to get my own lunch and read scriptures.)
PM – snacks, Kit home. Lessons. (M is art, T is music, W is sensory activities, Th is history & Mo horseback riding, F is science. Plus language & math, speech for Mo and spelling.)
4PM – dinner prep, dinner, clean up, family time. (By 7pm it’s quiet time and off to bed. 8pm all the kids except C is 8:30pm.)
That’s it. Much more simple. The only things I attempt to stick to are meals/snack times. Lessons wait for Kit to be home to do with older kids or he wrangles toddlers and I do lessons. But until I’m recovered from this postpartum stage, when he’s at work we are in survival mode so I do no lessons and no cleaning and nothing beyond keeping the kids safe and fed. Not even dressed, just fed and not bleeding.
I know that by January I’ll feel much, much more on top of things and our schedule will be completely different and I’ll be doing more lessons minus Kit. We’ll start some new projects (language binder, centuries binder for history, science projects, and maybe spanish.) For now, I’m just trying to get through the days in one piece.